Ego-state therapy

Ego-state therapy is an approach to psychotherapy that deals with the different aspects of the personality. Sometimes we feel confused or indecisive because these parts of ourselves are at odds with each other. One part of us has needs that are sometimes in stark contrast to other parts of our personality. Sometimes we have no logical explanation for certain and unhelpful behavior or for seemingly absurd desires or needs.

This can make us insecure, frustrated or even frightened.

The idea of ego-state therapy is to get to know these different personality parts and to better understand their needs. By becoming more aware of them, we can find inner peace and learn to deal with ourselves better.

It’s a bit like getting to know ourselves better and understanding why we sometimes have contradictory feelings. When we reconcile these parts of ourselves, we can feel emotionally stronger and more balanced.

I support you in recognizing these ego states and working with them. It can be challenging at times, but it helps us to understand ourselves better and make positive changes in our lives.


Hypnotherapy according to Milton H. Erickson is an innovative approach to psychotherapy based on the discoveries of the American psychiatrist and psychotherapist Milton H. Erickson. He was a well-known expert in the field of hypnosis and developed a special type of therapy.

Unlike what we know from the media, this type of hypnosis is more subtle and indirect. Rather than using hypnosis to achieve a state of deep unconsciousness, the aim is to use a trance to achieve a kind of heightened concentration in which the subconscious is particularly accessible for positive changes.

Stories and metaphors told by the therapist are an important tool in this therapy. These stories have parallels to the client’s challenges and can help to unconsciously find new solutions.

A central feature of Erickson’s hypnotherapy is that it is individually adapted to the needs and personality of each client. Instead of a standardized approach, the focus is on the uniqueness of each person.

With the help of this approach, I enable you to access your subconscious resources, which are helpful for your individual development process.

Attachment orientated therapy

This therapeutic approach focuses on how important relationships in our childhood and adolescence influence our lives today. It is based on the idea that the relationships with our parents or caregivers when we were very young have a strong influence on our feelings and behaviour.

Working together, the relationship between the therapist and the client takes centre stage. The therapist is an empathetic confidant to whom you can tell everything without fear of being judged. Together they look back at the client’s past and try to understand how past experiences in the family or with other important people influence the client’s life today.

An important part of this therapy is to build a secure and trusting relationship between the client and the therapist. Through this secure attachment, the client can learn to develop trust and better understand and control their feelings.

The therapist helps the client to make new experiences and develop positive relationship patterns. This can help to reduce fears and insecurities and strengthen self-confidence in relationships.

Attachment-based therapy can help with various problems, for example anxiety, depression or traumatic experiences. It can also be particularly useful if someone has difficulties in their relationships with other people.

I will help you to understand the importance of early relationships in your life and to develop new positive attachment patterns. This enables emotional healing and personal growth by strengthening safe and supportive relationships.

Emotion-focused therapy

Emotion focussed therapy (EFT) is a type of psychological help that focuses on how we deal with our emotions. It helps people to understand and process their emotions in order to improve their well-being. EFT was developed by psychologists Leslie Greenberg and Susan Johnson and is particularly well suited to helping couples through difficult times.

EFT is about recognising that emotions give us important information about our needs and desires. When we learn to understand these feelings, we can address deeper issues. A central concept in EFT is that there are “primary” and “secondary” emotions. Primary emotions are spontaneous reactions to situations, while secondary emotions are based on how we interpret those feelings. EFT helps to recognise and understand the primary emotions in order to bring about positive change.

Especially when working with couples, EFT emphasises how emotions influence communication. Conflicts often arise because emotions are not properly understood. The therapy helps couples to understand each other better and respond more sensitively to their partner’s feelings.

Another important point in EFT is the promotion of secure attachment. Sharing feelings builds trust and connection. This is particularly important for couples because a secure bond is the basis for a good partnership.

To summarise, emotion-focused therapy emphasises the importance of emotions in therapy. By better understanding emotions and incorporating them into the therapy, positive changes can be achieved in one’s own life and in relationships.

Systemic integrative couples therapy

Systemic integrative couples therapy is a therapeutic approach that integrates various elements from different schools and methods of therapy to help couples overcome their challenges and conflicts. The systemic approach means that therapy views the couple as part of a larger social system that has various influences on the relationship.

Here are some of the main elements of systemic integrative couples therapy:

  • 1. systemic approach: This approach looks not only at the individual problems of the partners, but also at the dynamics and interactions in the couple system and the effects on the social environment.
  • 2. integrative perspective: The therapy integrates various therapeutic models and techniques. These can be elements from behavioural therapy, Gestalt therapy, systemic therapy or psychodynamic therapy, for example. The respective methods are adapted to the specific needs of the couple.
  • 3. resource-orientation: the therapy focuses not only on problems and conflicts, but also on the couple’s resources and strengths. The aim is to promote positive change and develop solutions.
  • 4. individual needs-orientation: Another central aspect is individual needs-orientation. This refers to the consideration and appreciation of the individual needs, wishes and expectations of each partner in the relationship.

The therapy encourages each partner to have space to express and understand their own needs. This includes recognising differences in needs and accepting diversity within the relationship. The therapist encourages an open dialogue in which the partners can learn to understand each other better and communicate their needs clearly and respectfully.

  • 5. working with emotions: Therapy often involves emotional aspects, as emotions play an important role in interpersonal relationships. This can include identifying and expressing feelings as well as understanding the partner’s emotions.
  • 6. growth and development:a central aspect of systemic integrative couples therapy is the promotion of individual and joint growth as well as the personal development of the partners as individuals and as a couple. This involves recognising and developing personal potential and strengthening the partnership as an evolving unit.
    Therapeutic interventions aim not only to manage existing problems, but also to deepen understanding of individual developmental processes. This may involve clarifying shared life goals, exploring new perspectives and encouraging changes in thinking and behaviour.
  • 7. polarities: Polarities refer to the natural contrasts and differences between partners that are often present in a relationship. These can be differences in personality traits, needs, values or lifestyles.
    Instead of viewing these polarities as a source of conflict, couples therapy seeks to utilise them as potential for growth and enrichment. By understanding and accepting polarities, couples can learn how to complement each other’s different strengths and qualities.
    Therapeutic interventions focus on encouraging a constructive approach to polarities by improving communication patterns and developing compromise skills. This helps to ensure that polarities do not become sources of tension, but can be used as resources to create a balanced and harmonious partnership.
  • 8. Collusion: Another important aspect of systemic integrative couples therapy is dealing with collusion. Collusion refers to unconscious agreements or understandings between partners that can lead to the perpetuation of certain problematic patterns of behaviour. These patterns may serve to avoid deeper conflicts or work around unresolved issues.
    Therapy aims to uncover these collusions and bring them into focus to enable more conscious and constructive interaction between the partners. This often requires disclosure and reflection on the implicit agreements that may exist in the relationship.
    By uncovering collusion, couples can develop a deeper understanding of their behavioural patterns and explore alternative ways of dealing with challenges together. Therapy helps to create new, healthier agreements that promote positive change in the relationship and help to break old, problematic patterns.
  • 9. solution-orientation: In systemic integrative couples therapy, a strong focus is placed on the solution-orientated approach. This approach concentrates on developing concrete solutions to their challenges together with the partners, rather than focusing exclusively on problem analyses.
    The therapy encourages the partners to recognise and use their strengths and resources to bring about positive change. This involves identifying existing solutions and reinforcing proven strategies to overcome conflicts.
    The therapeutic process is centred on setting concrete goals and developing steps to achieve them. Couples therapy helps the partners to communicate their wishes and needs clearly and to formulate realistic and achievable goals together.
    Solution-focused interventions can also include emphasising positive changes in the past. By looking back on past successes, couples can be empowered and build confidence in their ability to solve problems.
    This solution-focused approach helps to create a positive and constructive framework for couples therapy. It allows the partners to focus on their shared future and motivates them to actively participate in realising solutions. By developing solution strategies, couples therapy becomes a proactive process that helps to improve the partners’ quality of life and strengthen the relationship in the long term.

Sex therapy

My work is strongly influenced by the approaches of Ulrich Clement, David Schnarch and Esther Perel. All three approaches combined enable me to work with you holistically.

Ulrich Clement, a renowned German psychologist and family therapist, has developed a systemic sexual therapy approach to understand and treat the dynamics of partnerships and sexual relationships more comprehensively.

At its centre is the idea that sexual problems should not be viewed in isolation, but in a wider social and interactive context. This means that not only individual psychological factors, but also relationship dynamics, communication patterns and social influences are included in the therapy.

A central concept in systemic sex therapy is the consideration of patterns and dynamics in relationships. This means that the focus is not only on the behaviour of an individual, but also on the interactions and patterns that have developed between the partners. This perspective makes it possible to recognise the deeper causes of sexual difficulties and to develop solutions together with the partners.

Systemic sex therapy emphasises communication and interaction between the partners. The therapeutic sessions offer a safe space to talk openly about needs, wishes and fears. The therapist acts as a neutral mediator and supports the couple in reflecting on their communication patterns and changing them if necessary.

Another important aspect is the consideration of social influences on sexuality. Ulrich Clement emphasises that sexual problems are not just individual difficulties, but are often also influenced by social expectations, norms and values. Systemic sex therapy helps couples to explore and, if necessary, change their own ideas about sexuality in order to develop an authentic and fulfilling sexuality.

David Schnarch, a renowned American psychologist and couples therapist, has focussed on the integration of sexuality and personal growth. He has developed this approach to help couples deepen their sexual intimacy while promoting personal fulfilment and maturity. He has developed this approach to help couples deepen their sexual intimacy while promoting personal fulfilment and maturity.

A key aspect of Schnarch’s sex therapy is the emphasis on each partner taking responsibility for their own sexual fulfilment. Schnarch argues that true intimacy can only occur when each partner is aware of their own needs and takes responsibility for their own emotional responses. This approach contrasts with traditional ideas, which often emphasise that the partner is responsible for satisfying their own needs.

Another central concept in Schnarch’s therapy is the idea of “differentiation”. It refers to how well a person is able to distinguish their own feelings, needs and desires from those of their partner without losing emotional connection. Schnarch argues that a higher level of differentiation forms the basis for a fulfilling and sustainable sexual relationship. David Schnarch’s therapeutic work aims to support the individual and couple to achieve a higher level of differentiation and thus deepen their sexual intimacy. This often involves exploring personal fears, insecurities and blocks that can interfere with sexual fulfilment.

Esther Perel, an internationally renowned therapist and author, has developed an innovative view of relationships and sexuality that is characterised by cultural sensitivity, global understanding and deep empathy.

Her innovative approach focuses on the multi-layered nature of modern relationships and the complexity of human sexuality.

A central element of Perel’s approach is her emphasis on the importance of eroticism in long-term relationships. She argues that eroticism and passion are often stifled by routines, habits and the pressures of everyday life. In her therapy, Perel encourages couples to rediscover eroticism, maintain curiosity and preserve the tension between familiarity and the unknown.

Esther Perel attaches great importance to individual identity within a partnership. She emphasises the need for each partner to have space for personal growth and self-development in order to maintain a fulfilling sexual relationship. The idea that autonomy and closeness can exist simultaneously is a key aspect of her therapy.

Another important concept in Perel’s work is the exploration of taboos and fantasies. She encourages couples to talk openly about their most intimate desires, creating an atmosphere of respect and acceptance. Perel believes that the ability to communicate about sexual fantasies can lead to a deeper understanding and connection between partners.

Esther Perel also integrates cultural perspectives into her therapy. She takes into account the cultural backgrounds, norms and values of her clients to ensure a comprehensive and contextualised approach. Her intercultural approach enables her to appreciate and understand the diversity of human sexuality.

The Zurich Resource Model

The Zurich Resource Model (ZRM) is a psychological concept developed by Swiss psychologists Maja Storch and Frank Krause. It is based on the assumption that people have inner resources that can help them to achieve their goals and overcome challenges. The model integrates findings from various psychological approaches, including cognitive behavioural therapy, systemic therapy and positive psychology.

Central to the Zurich Resource Model is the idea that every person has an individual repertoire of resources that are available to them in different life situations. These resources can include, for example, skills, experiences, positive emotions or supportive relationships. The aim of the CRM is to help people become aware of their own resources and activate them in a targeted manner in order to achieve their goals.

A central element of CRM is to identify a person’s individual needs, values and goals. Through targeted exercises and reflections, participants are guided to recognise and strengthen their personal resources. The conscious use of images and metaphors also plays an important role in emphasising the emotional aspects of resource activation.

The Zurich Resource Model is used in various contexts, including coaching, psychotherapy and personal development. It has proven to be an effective tool to help people clarify their goals, overcome obstacles and improve their quality of life. By focussing on strengthening existing resources, the model offers a positive and resource-oriented approach to personal development and change.

Inner team

The “inner team” method is a concept developed by the German psychologist and psychotherapist Prof Dr Friedemann Schulz von Thun. It is based on the idea that every person has an inner team consisting of various inner team members who represent different needs, values and beliefs. These inner voices can support each other, work together or compete and sabotage each other.

The concept of the inner team is a model that illustrates and visualises the complexity of the human personality. It helps to better understand inner psychological processes.

I often use the inner team method in coaching to help people understand and manage their inner decision-making processes. By realising which different team members exist within yourself and what needs they represent, you can learn to accept them better and work constructively with them.

In practice, the inner team method can help to promote self-reflection, make decisions and support personal development.

Structural constellations

Structural constellations are an experience-oriented method that enables participants to visualise and analyse the structure and dynamics of systems, teams or organisations. Representatives or symbols for the various elements of the system are placed in the room to show the relationships and interactions between them.

Firstly, the problem to be analysed is clearly defined and formulated. The participants select representatives for the various elements of the system and place them in the room according to their perception of the relationships and dynamics. The interactions between the participants are then analysed and the respective perceptions and feelings reflected upon. Based on the findings from the constellation, solutions can be developed and tried out. The insights and solutions gained can be integrated and implemented in everyday life or the work of the system.

I use structural constellations in companies and organisations to improve team dynamics, resolve conflicts and support change processes. In coaching, structural constellations are used to work on personal issues, achieve professional goals and promote self-reflection.

Chair work

Chair work is a method that allows you to creatively engage with different aspects of your inner world. The basic idea is that chairs are used to represent different people, emotions, inner voices or aspects of a situation. Each chair symbolises a certain part of the self or the problem. The clients take up positions on the chairs and enter into a dialogue with each other. Through the power of imagination, you connect with the people or aspects you are representing. This allows you to look at yourself from different perspectives and enter into a deep inner dialogue.

I stand by your side and ask questions to help you gain new insights and find solutions.

Chair work offers participants the opportunity to engage with themselves on a deep emotional level. By embodying different aspects of themselves, they can gain new insights, resolve inner conflicts and bring about positive changes in their lives. Ultimately, chair work is an effective method for self-reflection and personal development that enables participants to realise their full potential.

The “Walking Scale”

The systemic method “Walking Scale” is an experience-oriented technique used in systemic therapy and counselling to explore and change dynamics within a system. In this method, participants are asked to physically move along a symbolic scale that represents certain poles or positions. These positions can represent different aspects or perspectives of an issue or problem. Participants first position themselves along this scale, depending on where they see themselves or others in the system. They are then asked to move along the scale to change their positions depending on how their perspectives evolve during the process. This enables participants to rethink their points of view, gain new insights and possibly recognise new options for action. The “Walking Scale” method encourages reflection, enables in-depth exploration of relationship dynamics and supports change within the system. I often use them in group work, organisational consulting and other contexts where complex interpersonal or organisational problems need to be addressed.


The tetralemma method is an approach to problem-solving and decision-making that is based on the fact that there are not just two, but four possible answers or perspectives to a question or problem. This method offers a structured approach to analysing complex situations and developing alternative solutions. To apply the tetralemma method, participants first clearly identify the problem or decision-making situation. Four possible answers or perspectives to the problem are then considered: Yes, No, Both and Neither. Each of these perspectives is carefully examined and evaluated to understand its advantages and disadvantages. Based on the analysis of the four alternatives, alternative solutions are then developed that take all perspectives into account. This process allows participants to think outside the box and develop innovative solutions that may not have been obvious.

The applications of the tetralemma method are varied. It can be used in the business world to solve complex problems and make strategic decisions. In personal relationships, it can help to resolve conflicts and understand different points of view. The tetralemma method can also be used in creative processes to generate new ideas and find innovative solutions. Overall, the tetralemma method provides a structured and effective way to analyse complex situations and bring about positive change by encouraging participants to think outside the box and consider alternative perspectives.


The timeline method is an approach that allows participants to visualise and explore their life story on an imaginary timeline. This method assumes that our life experiences and events are arranged along a temporal axis and by visualising these events, participants can gain insights, recognise patterns and bring about positive changes in their lives. The process of the timeline method is structured and involves several steps. First, participants are encouraged to create an imaginary timeline that represents their past, present and future. They then place events, emotions and beliefs along this timeline and visualise them in their imagination. Both positive and negative experiences can be taken into account. By looking at the arranged events, patterns and connections in their lives can be recognised. You can identify which events are recurring, which emotions accompany someone and which beliefs influence their behaviour. This allows them to better understand themselves and identify emotional blocks that may be hindering their growth.

An important aspect of the timeline method is also working on the future. Based on their findings from analysing their past, participants can plan positive changes for the future and set new goals. You can develop strategies to break through negative patterns, utilise your strengths and improve your quality of life. I like to use this method in coaching to strengthen self-confidence and achieve personal goals. By reflecting on one’s own life story, valuable insights can be gained and positive changes can be brought about.

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